Being Vulnerable makes you Beautiful

In this picture i have given my palm to this guy, who will apply mehendi (palm art), my palm is vulnerable. However, i have faith and i will handover my palm. The colour of this mehendi will fade away someday, likewise, vulnerability is not permanent, but it is the moment of vulnerability that makes you beautiful. 

Thanks to Brene Brown who enlightened me with this amazing theory of 'Power of Vulnerability'. In my life at some stages i have encountered a phase where people have hurt me, have cheated on me, have made me feel miserable. Yet, i rise up again and learn to trust people, giving myself a chance to ensure that i don't lose faith in humanity and more of all human relationships, which are dear to me. However, i learnt that this beauty of life is called being vulnerable and this vulnerability makes you beautiful.

We need courage to be imperfect, we need to have a sense of worthiness, having a sense of love and belonging, having courage, compassion and most of all connecting to the other person... or rather giving yourself a zone for vulnerability. I want you to understand vulnerability here purely in the context of emotions. When you become vulnerable emotionally? When you share your secrets, when you say " I love you" first, when you trust the person blindly, when you stand up for someone thinking the person is right (but he/she may not be) and other situations like these where you and your emotions are at stake. 

Vulnerability in social sciences is certainly not a word to be appreciated, but i want to take a philosophical stand to vulnerability in this post. Brene Brown in her book, " The Power of Vulnerability" says, when we numb our emotions, we numb our vulnerability and there is where we start looking for purpose and meaning in life. There is nothing certain, yet we want certainty in uncertainty. She says, let ourselves been seen, "I am who i am and i am enough". People often stay away from vulnerability with variables associated with fear, guilt, shame. But the best thing is that we need to take courage to embrace vulnerability. I felt, that this can also be a reason why many don't want to dialogue, as it may help them open up and also make them vulnerable. Brene calls being vulnerable , as spiritual awakening. 

Most of the time we pretend that what we do has no effect on others, i personally guarantee you, never try this, it sucks.... what you do, especially in a human relationship, certainly has an effect on the other person. It is about the other person (who has been affected), who is embracing vulnerability, it is about how he/ she respond to a situation and not react, though their vulnerability has hurt them, yet has made them beautiful.

Paul says in 2 Corinthians 12:9, And he said to me, 'my grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness'. So we all are imperfect and weak and yet we are powerful. So embrace vulnerability, it makes you feel awesome. Over the years i have learnt, relationship is always about you and not about the other person. 

I want to end with a hymn that always comforted me, "When i find myself in times of trouble, mother mary comes to me, speaking words of wisdom, let it be.... There will be an answer let it be".